Capri’s actual due date was January 28 - my Dad’s birthday. I think he was excited at the thought of sharing his birthday with this new grand baby. I TOLD everyone her due date was February 1. I wanted to push it out a little because I dread as your due date is approaching and everyone starts calling and texting asking if the baby is here yet!
I really wanted this to be a natural birth. I spent the last few months of my pregnancy reading all I could about natural births and hypnobirthing. I read about how we are the only mammal that looks at childbirth as being painful. Have you ever watched a dog, or cow give birth? There is no sense of pain in their experience at all. However, dogs and cows DO know what pain is. They are just able to relax their bodies and do exactly what nature had intended for them to do. I was certain that I could do that exact same thing and allow my body to do what it was built to do. I meditated, practiced breathing techniques, and continued to exercise right up to the end of my pregnancy. I researched essential oils and which oils could be helpful in all aspects of labor - before, during and after.
We had a doctors appointment the morning of the 27th and decided to do a membrane sweep to see if we could get things moving along for some personal reasons and things we had going on at the time. The doctor told me to try and stay active throughout the day to help keep things moving as well. I was so anxious to get things going and ended up walking about 5 miles total on the treadmill, and we also made a family trip to Walmart to let Everly look through the toy section! Throughout dinner time I started having very light contractions about 10 minutes apart pretty consistently, but not at all painful. My inlaws made the trip up to spend the night since we were fairly sure the baby would be coming soon and we had someone to be with Everly. We went to bed that night hoping they would not see us when they woke up in the morning.
Around 2am I woke up to contractions that were painful enough that I couldn’t fall back asleep, but that I was breathing through completely fine without being too uncomfortable. From 2-3 I timed my contractions being about 5 minutes apart and lasting for about a minute each. I was certain it was pre labor and if we went to the hospital I would just get sent home. Looking back, I’m not sure why I thought that! Maybe because my contractions with Everly leading up to labor were much more painful and intense. But with Everly, my water had broke (which can tend to make contractions more painful), and I also hadn’t practiced any breathing techniques or really prepared myself for labor at all. Around 3am, I woke up Mike and told him we should probably head to the hospital. He showered and we were at the hospital and in our room by 4am.
After monitoring my contractions and the baby’s heartbeat for a bit, I was finally able to get into the tub around 5am. My hospital had tubs in every room that you could get into to labor which I had heard could be helpful for getting through contractions. As I got into the tub, the nurse made sure we had everything we needed and said to let her know if I felt an urge to push at all. I was only about 5cm dilated as I got in the tub, so I assumed I would labor there for a bit. I sat on my knees in the tub and put my head down on my forearms through the first contraction. It was a tough one to get through, so I repositioned myself to my back. As I got through the next contraction, at the very end of it, I felt my body do the smallest push. We decided to call the nurse to let her know.
The nurse was in the bathroom almost immediately after we had called and said to get out! As I was standing in the bathroom, Mike and the nurse were drying me off and another contraction came on. This one was extremely intense and I could feel my body pushing throughout the entire contraction. I had completely lost control of my body and it was taking over and doing exactly what it was supposed to. The nurse instructed me to stop pushing and I told her I couldn’t. She looked at Mike with a little bit of a worried look and said to him “we need to get her in the bed.” I sensed her urgency and took one glance at the bed and got myself in the bed and onto my back. About 30 seconds later another contraction came on strong and my body once again took over and started pushing on its own. The nurses instructed me to breathe through it and it would help my body to stop pushing. I did my best.
I looked up and my Doctor was rushing in. She took one look at me and said “this baby is coming on the next contraction.” The nurses were frantically changing sheets and blankets and setting everything up for this baby’s arrival. I looked to Mike and he had a look of shock, amazement, excitement, and overwhelming emotion on his face. Next thing I knew the contraction had started and everyone was cheering me on to push. Seconds later the pressure was gone and I could see my baby! She was placed on my stomach immediately and Mike came right up to be by our side.
TRUTH: natural birth was not nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be. To be real, the worst part was after labor when the nurses would push down on my stomach to be sure everything had come out and they continued to push to get all of the blood out. If we have a third baby, will I do it again? Absolutely!!!
ESSENTIAL OILS: I had all my oils packed I wanted before we left for the hospital. As soon as contractions started, I would apply Clary Sage to the bottom part of my belly (this can help contractions progress). As soon as we got to the hospital, I had Clary Sage and Patchoulli diffusing in the room. It’s a very earthy, grounding combination that I knew I wanted. Each time I diffuse this now it takes me right back to Capri’s birth. I diffused White Angelica for he remainder of the time I was in the hospital. It’s my absolute FAVORITE scent and reminds me of angels. I used Claraderm spray “down there” a few times a day to help the healing process begin. It’s a blend of oils that help reinvigorate skin and relieve irritation. I brought along another fav - the tranquil roller. But, decided against using it because the first few days with my new babe I just decided I didn’t want any oils directly on my skin. Any skin to skin bonding time we had, I wanted her to spend getting to know me and my scent with no distractions. I have no idea if this is a thing, or even something that can happen....just what made sense to me in my situation and what I was looking for!
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